I also have the same issue with my cat! Me and my son usually enjoy its company. She also sniffs constantly. Am i in the wrong? It was my birthday gift. I remember one time telling the dog to get off the couch to go get a treat from him in the kitchen, and his reply was She doesnt have to shes the queen! I love people sometimes and love most animals and dogs included. Eventually i was allowed in the bed, but the dogs keep jumping on and off from the bed and they shed hair EVERYWHERE. Except hes getting attacked he will defend himself. But, think about this a little bit Your dog cannot take care of you when you are sick. I just went and got a towel and sat back down miffed. But it has come down to him or my dog this is literally breaking my heart we are broken up right now over this!! He doesnt keep you awake, ignore your commands, scratch incessantly at every closed door, refuse to come when hes called or BITE you. However I HATE HATE HATE fur! So I would encourage you to stand firm now before you get too emotionally involved with him. Either way, that puppy probably should find a new home. But if this situation doesnt improve, I cannot be with someone like this. My husband despises the dog, to the point that he came home from work one day to find me holding him in my lap and petting him because he was sick, and he went bizerk. Hire a dog trainer: If your husband/boyfriend is about to get rid of the dog, first you need to chat with him and get another month of time to correct the behavior. I think its the most disgusting thing ever, and they just let their cat scratch on furniture rip up boxes and shoes and let the cat walk around on the dinner table. I really like this girl, and I overheard her tell my friends fiancee one night that she can see herself marrying me and hopes I propose to her within two years. Possibly one month would be enough. She should get the hint very quickly. I broke up with him because I saw no possible way for this to work, and I didnt want to force him to choose between me and the dog. Im literally in a silent argument about it right now! I really do hate this dog now. My main point of concern is that she brought responsibility, financial and time burdens into my life without my approval. I find it so upsetting when people equate dogs to children. And dog lovers cant do that. A year later, I was asked to foster for a short while a blind cat called Pheobe and my boyfriend, now husband, reluctantly agreed. I really think a book could be written about this, and were going to be seeing a LOT more of it in the future as more people become single. My partner loves dogs as do I, so neither of us mind their presence. I think I know who is wrong. And even though Ive always been an animal lover, will never own one of my own either. I have to disagree. He used to sleep with both the dog and cat in bed before we lived together. Like you said, there has to be some give and take and thats what youll have to do if you want to be with him and vice versa so you both and can happy. And that is the same sort of excuses I hear from dog owners all the time hes just not used to other people or thats just the breed or thats just how he is. And the rest of us are expected to put up with it. And I was itchy and got rashes while she was on the bed. Ive just been at a loss lately and have completely given up. The dog just fed his ego. Anyway, as I was feeding the baby I hear my dog whining which I know means he needs to go out. So I am dealing with a situation with my husband agreeing on taking care of his brothers dog for a YEAR as he and his family gallivant across Europe, without consulting with his entire family. Growing up we had dogs but they were never allowed to run in the house never sit on furniture or even go into bedrooms. I bought a cage and put him in it at night. Weve been staying here almost 3 months, it has been overwhelming and stressful for us because we cant really settle because its not our place but plan to move out in December into our own flat which is in the next 2 months. Its absolutely disgusting. Chat with your veterinarian about spay or neuter the dog. Yes, she is a dog. Thankfully the cat is fine now. In Texas they were allowed to be inside as long as they were kenneled. Shes a decently trained dog though, she knows to do her business outside, she listens after the third time you tell her and for the most part is well mannered. Some of them also found it odd that, as a dog owner, Im perfectly fine with the fact that some people dont like dogs. Id never ask my wife to get rid of them and the problem isnt the dogs: its the way she treats the dogs and the problems that creates. Not sure yet, I am still pouting. Logan, At home training, if that doesnt work the next step professional training. But as I said, equally you have a responsibility to ensure that your dog behaves properly and listens to and respects your partner, AND other people. So, she did depend on them and treated them like humans (something she even admitted she has to stop doingtreating them like humans). Oh please Im just stressed that this is going to be the same thing! She was well trained, stayed home with family when we traveled. Its not fair that Beau is exposed to all of our negative behavior, and he just seems so miserable whenever my boyfriend is home. I hate that dog! Its feeling like Im second best and that ever since that d. Me and my boyfriend have been living together for two years. 75 percent of his waking life he is begging for something. Right now the only rules I want is for them to stay off the furniture and not pee on the floor. Questions or concerns about the preceding article can be directed to the author or posted as a comment below. I allow the dog in the basement. Suppose the girl owns a dog, and that canine tends to interrupt the relationship as a result of feeling jealousy or any other psychological issue. At this point, I feel like her dog dictates our relationship. I cant complain about her because everyone that sees her loves her. Im tired of it. You deserve to be listened to, talked to, and even disagreed with. But apparently it was too much to ask, because we have had so many massive fights about it. Think about a puppy who bites you as a result of being a bit exceedingly excited. He still lived with his family. I am so happy I left. Anyway she left last nite and was angry about the way I answered her about some thing. If the mouth sores are actually, oh, acne sores (sometimes acne around the mouth is painful, ugly, and very hard to treat), thats a bacteria == but same thing, any spread of acne bacteria should be fairly rapid. My husband and I have been living together for almost two years. Sometimes, your husband/boyfriend may attempt to get rid of the dog because of less compatibility with other pets in the household, which means the dogs aggressiveness to other canines, cats, or any other pet. Animal shelters are more crowded than ever, and finding a person who loves his/her pet is a good thing. Or who knows, you may both find the break refreshing and a great opportunity to experience a human love relationship more fully, even to the point of extending the dogs vacation. We both work hard and long hours, so a dog has never been an option, I love cats, but would settle for a rabbit or Guinea pig, but even this is met with an absolute no. This is why he isnt allowed in the upstairs area of our house, and hes definitely not allowed on our furniture. WHAT DO I DO??? As everyone agrees, this small nip never gonna draw blood. Just like having one boy and one girl as children, I want one cat and then Ill be happy. If Id known this from the start of my marriage I could have accepted it and possibly reconciled myself to never owning a dog I love all animals, and Id still be able to have pets of some sort but to build my hopes up over 8 years and then suddenly refuse to even consider my wish seems totally unfair to me. Devoted animal lovers sometimes say their pets are like childrenand like children, a furry best friend can cause plenty of strife in a relationship. Jennifer: Sally, you should hear some of the comments I get from dog nutters when I tell them that our dog is not allowed in our bed. I am still so depressed about it but have gotten better (its been about 6 months since) but i now have an absolute hate for my fiances dog. Dan, I certainly understand wanting to continue the relationship. It barks constantly and urinates all over if not crated when no one is home and chews up my Gfs socks and underwear if given the chance. Everything is the dog. The dog, 2. Im a mess right now. They need guidance. Im not opposed to the dog, i actually like him, but the sleeping arrangement is troublesome for me. I now have one foot out the door unless he is willing to accept my compromise or come up with some equally durable plan. He did not cross that line, but he was definitely in love with his dog. i have severe allergies and most importantly, i do not want them constantly running in the house and jumping on furniture. The dog of course begins peeing everywhere. She Says its either her and the baby or my dogs. Im not without feelings but theres no telling how long the dog could live. My question to you is: Your pet surely is not a happy animal in his given situation. My big dog is way too big to do that. There are times when I feel like choking that dog due to the amount of aggravation from him not being obedient and being spoiled !!! My wifes stupid dog (125lb German Shepherd) attacked our son and she STILL lets him around our son when I leave the house. Socialization: Has your dog appropriately socialized? Thankfully, the trainer was able to work with them to correct that behavior. Privacy Policy. I have been in love with the same woman for over 15 years but my fear is she will leave me because of our difference of opinion with her dog sleeping in our bed. She has told me and her parents that she feels the same way. My fiance and i have been together for almost 3 years. Maybe you could call Caesar Milan! I said screw it at one point and kicked him out of the room and shut the door on him. I seen cute small dogs like miniature pinschers (I had one) it was a boy. Why? If you dont want to even see him because of his dog that he worships, its likely not the guy for you. So I need some advice. But apparently it was my fault because she walked in front of me while I was looking Ina store window. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. The problem is that my boyfriend for the most part responds with yelling horribly at him. They are not. Nessa, the dog nipping at my kid would have been the last straw. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or You, and those like you, anthropomorphize human feelings onto dogs. Im having the exact same issue with my dog and my partner hating him. Amen! i hate being home just because i dont want to be around her. But we live in a loud neighborhood on a loud corner so he barks usually out of nowhere and for random sounds or ones you think he would be used to by now. Still though if it was up to me theyd be in my bed! My fiance has made comments on having to choose between his dog and i, and its his dog he would choose. I agree accidents can happen. I do agree with you as far as how a couple individually interacts with a pet. He had his dog of not even a year. He eats my dogs food and makes sure she doesnt eat or get any water. 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